| 05:24pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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SATPAL
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Msg no: 228740
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youre jealous?
fuck it man have a baby or somethin'. |
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| 05:29pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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Misstress
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Msg no: 228743
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No not jealous per se.
I have introduced many people who are now good friends. I think it's just the cousin I have an issue with  |
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| 05:34pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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DRJATTI
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Msg no: 228745
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yeah you have issues with her.
for everything you see while u think, hear or look at her.. so like, not actuallly her as a person, but just all the stuff in your head which kinda manifests into a human representation of your hubby's cousin.
basically it is jealousy. you feel like you're missing out.
its evolution baby.
dont fight it, fuck it.
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| 05:37pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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Misstress
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Msg no: 228746
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I think she is just infringing too much on my 'space' - when she comes to visit she doesn't even invite me out or introduce me to her mates
It's all about give and take  |
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| 06:16pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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niceguyeddie
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Msg no: 228747
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I see why you might be pissed off.
But, in reality, what can you do about it? You can't stop cousin seeing your mates (unless you start a smear campaign against her - but that will backfire. Or you murder her. Or murder all your friends. But those two options may seem a trifle extreme).
Anyway, so, yeah, you can't stop it. Pretend you don't mind - otherwise people will think you are a jealous freak - and wait - at some point she will slip up and then everyone will start hating her. Then you can join in and laugh and jeer and point and stuff.
On a separate note, why are you called "misstress" - do you engage in extra marital stuff? Or is just that you're stressed?
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| 10:16pm, 28th Jan 2008 |
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reelist
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Msg no: 228754
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"fuck it man have a baby or somethin'."
classic!
just sounds like you miss the life you used to have with ur mates. dont take it out on ur cousin cos its not her fault, she probably doesnt realise how this makes you feel. and to be honest its not fair on her for you to rant at her about it.
that have a baby comment isn't so bad. it'll give you a new passion in life and will most likely mark an end to the chapter in your life where you were going out clubbing, and open a new one as a mother.
but don't go getting yourself knocked up cos i said so. |
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| 02:50pm, 29th Jan 2008 |
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Misstress
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Msg no: 228760
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Thanks for the comments guys and gals.
Eddie - I don't think I should reveal too much at this stage!
Jatti - yes you are right - it's evolution and I actually feel better today. I must have been having an off day.
Reelist and Satpal - a baby is not a good idea at the moment! I think I just need to focus on my life and career.
I'm not going to say anything to anyone - I have known some of my mates for over 15 years and others for 10 years so I have no need to feel insecure. I just miss the people I am close to and don't like someone else trying to 'take-over' and calling my mates 'her mates' - especially when she met them through me and makes not effort with me.
(starting to sound like a child now!) LOL. |
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| 08:59pm, 29th Jan 2008 |
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Hannibal
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Msg no: 228761
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Can't you build the same kind of friendship with your current friends where you are ?
As you've mentioned, your London friends will always be there.
Build new bridges and think more about yourself and not your cousin, otherwise you'll end up resenting her when it's not even her fault. |
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| 01:41am, 30th Jan 2008 |
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nerd
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Msg no: 228773
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why did this thread title instantly attract my attention...
are you of legal marrying age?seriously.because there is a place we can go called childline. |
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| 07:43am, 30th Jan 2008 |
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ms_fat_booty
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Msg no: 228775
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this kind of happened to me.. it may partly be jealousy, but rest assured your friendship is likely to be stronger with your friends than your cousins friendship is with your friend.
i got a decent circly of friends that i like to mix and match. i ended up moving to the west midlands and my friends became friends with each other and did stuff without me. it was tough in the start because i felt like they were doing stuff without me.. but you know shit happens and you move on... |
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| 07:44am, 30th Jan 2008 |
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ms_fat_booty
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228776
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friends friends friends. |
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| 07:58am, 30th Jan 2008 |
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ms_fat_booty
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228777
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gosh, i hate everything that i've written and want to delete it now. poo. oh well. |
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| 11:49am, 30th Jan 2008 |
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bathing_ape
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Msg no: 228779
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Its ok we know what you meant and we luvs you booty.
Some of us even luvs your booty.
Which is no bad thing, believe me. |
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| 12:45pm, 30th Jan 2008 |
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niceguyeddie
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228780
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Oh go on, don't be shy. We are all friends here. Reveal more. |
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| 03:35am, 31st Jan 2008 |
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Harmy
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Msg no: 228796
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lol at eddie!!
Mistress ur jelous at the fact that shes with
them the way you used to be and its
reminding you of yourself and your afraid
shes taken your place! And i guess her calling
them her mates just tops it up!!
As said above just be happy and ur cuzin
prob doesnt no this is annoying you!! Maybe
its a short term thing when your cousin gets
her own mates she'll be busy with them??
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| 11:57am, 31st Jan 2008 |
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ms_fat_booty
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Msg no: 228810
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hello, it's me again. i want to type again because what i wrote was so shit before...
so, me, i moved from london to bham about 2.5 years. in london i had a decent mix of friends and i liked to mix my diff friendship groups and hang out as one big happy family. my friends became friends with my other friends and then i moved to brum and so...couldn't be with my peeps. in turn, my friends who i introduced to each other started hanging out and i was totally out of the picture.
i was gutted that i couldn't be with them and felt crap hearing their stories. there was a bit of jealousy coz ultimately they were having fun when i couldn't. i never confronted any of them and after a while, i realised that my individual friendship with my friends was much stronger than the friendship that they had made. that was all very on the surface and nothing too deep.
now it's all sorted because they've realised the same. i don't go out that much with any one particular group because i properly live in bham now... but i no longer feel the way i did back then.
so... what im saying is... don't let the jealousy get to you... |
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| 01:09pm, 31st Jan 2008 |
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spoon
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Msg no: 228817
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Booty is just jealous cos me and Satpal started hanging out loads. |
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| 01:20pm, 31st Jan 2008 |
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Misstress
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228818
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Glad it's not just me who has these feelings - I think I will just let it be and see what happens - afterall you cannot replace 15 years of friendship with 5 months.
I do have new friends where I am now - although some of them have ended up being a bit crazy (not in a good way)! It's fun though. |
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| 02:16pm, 31st Jan 2008 |
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ms_fat_booty
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228819
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i'm thinking you and spacey. |
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| 02:45pm, 31st Jan 2008 |
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spoon
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228825
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oh yeah...
(sighs)...she's so great. and hot too. |
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| 04:25pm, 1st Feb 2008 |
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SATPAL
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228859
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im officially de-barfi-ed...i havent hung out with anyone of 'ere for yonks.
i do find it strange that this lady mistress is wanting everything. sometimes you get the best things when you sacrifice something. |
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| 11:46pm, 7th Feb 2008 |
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DRJATTI
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228948
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she wants to EAT ALL THE PIES.
fuck it.
Jealousy is a fucking sicko feeling.
Shoot the person who created that whole jealousy bullshit.
satpal u fuckin liar - you were polishing my shoes last week. |
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| 11:47pm, 7th Feb 2008 |
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DRJATTI
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228949
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5 swear words
nai bad nai baaaaaaad |
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| 09:30am, 8th Feb 2008 |
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niceguyeddie
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228957
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I still wanna know about this whole "Misstress" thing |
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| 11:22am, 8th Feb 2008 |
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Misstress
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228960
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Eddie - I have been around for a while. My name is nothing to do with the TV show.
It's a woman's perogative to be a jealous bitch. |
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| 11:34am, 8th Feb 2008 |
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Hannibal
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228961
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"It's a woman's perogative to be a jealous bitch."
Why ? |
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| 11:49am, 8th Feb 2008 |
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SATPAL
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228963
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because they want EVERYTHING! |
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| 11:53am, 8th Feb 2008 |
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Hannibal
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228964
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So where are the guys going wrong then...are we just too easy to please ? |
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| 05:33pm, 8th Feb 2008 |
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Misstress
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 228971
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Chill out boys... us females have too many hormone issues... even a woman can't explain her own feelings sometimes.
Typical example is me in my situation above. |
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| 10:18pm, 8th Feb 2008 |
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Apni
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Msg no: 228972
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Lmao at "have a baby or something"
Envy...can eat u away misstress...and it obviously is.
This will result in anger which u hold inside and eventually will build up..leading to u blowing up..in her face..at the stupidist of things ....yet to come.
Good lucks. |
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| 11:31am, 3rd Mar 2008 |
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Misstress
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 229247
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I have been spending more time with mates in Midlands. The baby is NOT coming for a while yet!
Went to visit my mates over the weekend - and of course I had to meet up with the cousin. Strangely enough she was very clingy to my best-mate - but I've come to realise that I need to stop being bitter as these are mates I have known for 15 years and you can't replace the history we have.
Jealousy is a bitch. You would be proud of me though. I suppose I should be happy I can bring people together.  |
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| 11:40am, 3rd Mar 2008 |
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mr_xxxtreme
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Msg no: 229248
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as long as u dont think the cousin is trying to drive a wedge between yr mates and u, then i see nothing wrong with it. |
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| 01:25pm, 3rd Mar 2008 |
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Misstress
[Profile - Diary]
Msg no: 229250
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To be honest I think she is in awe of my mates - plus they are a good bunch. She couldn't drive a wedge if she tried. Although I still think she is stepping on my toes a bit. I don't know if she tried to make me feel jealous on purpose sometimes as she seems to spend more time calling them. She's probably rang me a handful of times in the past 3 years but seems to find time and effort ringing them. |
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